For the kingdom is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit.Romans 14 v 17
The kingdom of God did not come to make man conform to a certain pattern of behaviour, instead it came to transform us.
As new creatures we enjoy righteousness with God, peace that passes understanding and joy unspeakable.
Our job isn’t to tell other people how to live, pointing out their faults and how they have to change in order to please God – that’s just the same as the law. Instead our job is to call people into their true identity – fully reconciled to God and free from sin.
If our message doesn’t put a big fat smile on someone’s face, then it’s probably not the kingdom.